Safety for Women
Many people, especially women, abhor violence. For this reason, before I begin, I will tell you the difference between violence and responsive force. Violence is an unprovoked attack on someone who has not used physical force prior to the initiation of violence. Responsive force is physical means intended to protect the potential victim of violence. It is legitimate, and is supported by western civilization, including the major religions, and the cultures of the people. When someone attacks you, you have every right to defend yourself, and may legally use whatever force is needed to protect yourself and others. If this includes killing someone, this is also legally justified, as long as you seek to use the minimum force necessary to accomplish the goal of protecting yourself or someone else. If the violence is readily apparent, you don't have to justify doing more damage than what might have sufficed. Nobody will second-guess you. Occasionally, some police officer or some judge will run amok with punishing you, but this is rare. You were there; you perceived a threat and felt threatened. Don't be afraid or squeamish about using whatever responsive force is needed. One reason for practicing is so that you will be more in control of the outcome. The first rule is to avoid confrontation if you can, but if you can't, then train yourself to accept the use of responsive force. You may use responsive force to protect yourself or anybody else who is being attacked.
I got this in my email, and have added to it from my own training. This is a long one but important info for all of us women! You may want to print it out and read it later if you're busy...
THIS COULD SAVE YOUR LIFE.... OR THOSE TO WHOM YOU PASS THIS ON!
Safety for Women
I learned from my children's karate classes that the elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do! Hit especially around the face with it. Practice this! Practice swinging your elbow into a target. Have someone show you how to do this.
[Make a fist with one hand, and wrap your other hand around it. Hold your arms at shoulder level, so that they are parallel with the floor. Use your body to swing your elbow into the target; twist your body rapidly at the waist. Strike with your forearm at the target.]
If you are in your bed or on your back, and someone is trying to rape you, kick him with your feet as hard as you can! Use a bicycling motion. Practice this.
If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won't see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.
Last night I attended a personal safety workshop, and it jolted me. It was given by an amazing man, Pat Malone, who has been a body guard for famous figures like Farrah Fawcett and Sylvester Stallone. He works for the FBI, and teaches police officers and Navy SEALS hand-to-hand combat. This man has seen it all, and knows a lot.
He focused his teachings to us on HOW TO AVOID BEING THE VICTIM OF A VIOLENT CRIME. He gave us some statistics about how much the occurrences of random violence have escalated over the recent years, and it's terrible. Something like 99% of us will be exposed to, or become a victim of a violent crime. Here are some of the most important points that I got out of his presentation:
(1.) The three reasons women are easy targets for random acts of violence are:
(2.) Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc, and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc). DON'T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE. When you DO get into your car, get in quickly. Don't dawdle!
(3.) ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone, and the perfect crime spot).
(4) If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN!
(5.) As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed.
(6.). Tips to saving your life, if you have gotten into a violent situation:
(7.) Always keep your distance when walking past strangers on the street or in dark areas. Walk away from doorways, out in the street, if you have to.
(8.) GET A CELL PHONE.
(9.) BREAKDOWNS: Make every effort to avoid this by ALWAYS keeping your car in good working order.
(10.) Physical defenses that we can use against the violent predator:
A cautionary note about these things. If you do not do these things right the first time, you are in trouble, because it will only anger the individual, and that anger will be TAKEN OUT ON YOU. I'm not saying don't attempt them (it may be your only hope), but be forceful when you do.
(11.) If you are walking alone in the dark (which you shouldn't be) and you find him following/chasing you:
(12.) Never let yourself or anyone that you know be a "closer" in any type of business (bar, store, restaurant, gas station). Pat knew Danielle, who was a girl that just died from being shot point-blank by some kids while she was closing at the local gas station.
He talked with her the night before she died, and asked whether it ever scared her to close alone. She said yes, but said "I'll be alright, Pat.
I'll be all right." She wasn't. Our world is not as safe as we pretend that it is, and living in our fantasy worlds WILL get us in trouble, sooner or later. Pat Malone said again and again that the women who die EVERY MINUTE from violent crimes expected to go to bed tonight, and get up tomorrow.
No one expects it, but we must be prepared and aware so that we HAVE A PLAN. BE PREPARED TO ACT! AND ACT HARD! HAVE A PLAN!
Remember also this: if you are being attacked by a lone attacker, HE MUST PUT DOWN HIS WEAPON TO RAPE YOU. Wait for that opportunity, and take advantage of it IMMEDIATELY.
My self defense instructor told me that 72% of the UNTRAINED women who fight back escape unharmed. It is worth it to try, no matter how little training you have. But PLEASE find a martial art and train to the black belt level, even if you have a disability. The more of us who are armed with skills, the less safe a predator will feel attacking an unknown person. Also take self defense courses whenever you can, and PRACTICE, but be careful not to break the bones of your significant other!
I have a friend whose daughter was carjacked from a shopping mall at 10 o'clock at night, taken into the desert and brutally raped and murdered. So PLEASE heed the recommendations on this page.
I would encourage you to pass this on to all women, not just your friends and family, but everybody. We all need to hear it.
My appreciation to Gedeon Peteri, fractal artist, for some of the background material.